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Healthy Relationships take work…

Healthy Relationships take work!  Alright…just call me Troy “stating the obvious” Aikman! I apologize for the direct reference to football in the second sentence of this blog…but have you heard…the Green Bay Packers are in the Super Bowl?

Less I digress…as I said Healthy Relationships take work.  This is true between two people…members of a family or household or Faith Community…and between two or more Faith Communities of the same or different denominational expressions.

There are certain qualities needed in order to be in a healthy relationship…honesty, trust, a sense of one’s identity, as well as the ability to be influenced and a willingness to be open to adapt and change.  I am sure there are others that you could name.

Last Sunday, as part of my address at the Annual Meeting, I highlighted the various relationships we are in…as an Episcopal Faith Community in Rochester, Minnesota…with the people of the Four Episcopal Congregations on the White Earth Reservation and with the people of St. Peter’s Episcopal Church in Kasson.  Each of these relationships has come about because of an expressed interest…given voice by members of both communities…the people of White Earth and the people of St. Peter’s in Kasson.  Our relationship with St. Peter’s in Kasson is at a cross roads…occasioned by the possibility of calling another curate to serve with us…among us.  I am not sure what the outcome of this conversation will be.  Would you like our Shared Ministry relationship to continue with St. Peter’s in Kasson?  Would you like our relationship with the Faith Communities on White Earth to continue?  I encourage you to consider these questions and comment if you wish.

We find ourselves in other relationships…with our Lutheran sisters and brothers at People of Hope…an Evangelical Lutheran Church in Mission.  We came into Full Communion with the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America in 2000.  It is because of a mutual friendship between their former pastor and me that we began an intentional relationship with POH for 5 years…doing Middle School Faith Formation together…which led to Middle School Mission Trips in 2008, 2009, 2010 and one planned for 2011.  POH has gone through a pastoral transition and we have walked with them through it.  Do you want this relationship to continue?  Please comment if you wish.

We have just begun to explore a relationship with Berea Moravian Church, a few miles north of St. Charles.  Pastor Val Lehman preached at St. Luke’s in January of 2010.  I was invited to preach by their Board of Elders in February of 2010 and we continue to explore what a relationship might look like with our sisters and brothers at Berea Moravian Church.  The Episcopal Church voted to come into Full Communion with the Moravian Church in 2009 and both provinces of the Moravian Church voted to come into Full Communion with us in 2010.  Do you want this relationship to continue?  Please comment if you wish.

I believe our hoped for future as an Episcopal Faith Community will be built on partnerships and relationships with other Christians…Episcopalians, Lutherans and Moravians…to name a few.  Relationships…partnerships take work….How would you like to work on these important relationships?  I welcome your comments!

Every blessing,


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  1. Tami Walker
    February 11, 2011 at 9:34 pm

    My children have really enjoyed our relationship with People of Hope! Our son was able to attend the National ELCA Youth gathering in New Orleans in 2009 with a extended group on ELCA kids including People of Hope and other local ELCA churches. It was a wonderful spirit-filled experience for him.

  2. kathy monnet
    February 4, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    I value my relationship with St. Luke’s and all of our congregation. That being said, I believe fostering partnerships and developing communication with other communities will enhance our religious experiences. Furthermore, increasing our sphere of knowledge will not only broaden our understandings. but I think we’ll find the commonalities we share far outweigh any differences we perceive.

  3. Mark Martig
    February 3, 2011 at 8:07 pm

    good information…

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